Because our self-sabotage often comes from our underlying fears of inadequacy and unworthiness, stopping our self-sabotaging behaviors and patterns comes down to changing our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. As part of our healing, we can choose to start seeing our traumatic experiences not as evidence of some kind of failing on our part, but […]
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What is Self-Sabotage?
Many of us living with addictions and mental health issues share patterns of self-destructiveness that drive our actions. For many of us, this can occur as self-sabotage. What does this look like, and why do we do it? Self-sabotage can take on many forms – interrupting our healing progress, choosing unhealthy relationships and behaviors, physical […]
What Happens When We Don’t Feel Heard and Understood?
One of our basic emotional instincts is the need to feel heard, understood and validated by the people around us. We crave safe community within which to be supported and accepted. When we don’t have this, it can greatly impact our mental and emotional health in limiting and destructive ways. Our fears can be really […]
How Can I Reframe Things More Positively?
One of our biggest challenges when it comes to addictions and mental health issues is our tendency to think the very worst – about the events and situations in our lives, about our relationships, about ourselves and our lives in general. We see things through a lens of negativity. This can lead not only to […]
Where Do Our Limiting Beliefs Come From?
Many of us with addictions and mental health issues share in common a tendency to carry within us deeply disempowering limiting beliefs. While everyone’s beliefs are going to be unique to them, there are some limiting beliefs that many of us share – that we’re not good enough, that we are shameful, bad people undeserving […]
What Happens When We Feel Rejected?
Rejection is a common theme for many of us. At some point in our lives we’ve felt rejected and then internalized that rejection. Many of us whose families separated or experienced any kind of loss developed deeply rooted fears of abandonment, especially if we were abandoned in one way or another, emotionally if not physically. […]
My Loved One is in Denial About Addiction – What Can I Do?
It can be extremely difficult to handle our loved ones’ denial about their addictions. To us it’s evident they are struggling and need help. We are so worried about them. We fear for their safety and for the safety of the people around them, including ourselves. When they are in denial, they are convinced they […]
What is at the Root of our Compulsions?
Our addictive urges and compulsions can be all-consuming and debilitating. They can drastically interfere with our daily routines. They can deter us from our healing progress. When we aren’t able to stop ourselves from acting on them, we are often filled with sadness, guilt, embarrassment and regret. We feel angry with ourselves. We know our […]
How Can I Be Happy When I’m Struggling?
Our addictions and mental health issues can take over our lives and make us feel like there is nothing to be happy about in life, nothing to redeem us, nothing to look forward to. When we are struggling, one of the best things we can do for ourselves is learn how to look for the […]
How Do I Stop Feeling Like I’m Not Good Enough?
One thing so many of us share, whether or not we struggle with addictions, is this incessant feeling that we’re not good enough, that we don’t measure up to other people, that we aren’t who or what we wish we were. These limiting beliefs are a part of what connect us as human beings. They […]