Many of us have been conditioned to think that in order to be strong and competent, we must be totally independent. We think that we should never ask anyone for anything, and that we should be able to do everything on our own. We assume we’re weak if we need help. These thought patterns are limiting beliefs that we hold about ourselves and that we apply to the recovery process. Our limiting beliefs are usually rooted in fear, not in truth. There actually is a great deal of strength in being able to admit we need help, in asking for help when we need it, and in being able to let people help us. Allowing ourselves to receive help is actually one of the bravest things we can do four ourselves. Being able to be vulnerable and share that vulnerability with other people is actually a sign of strength and courage.
When we refuse to seek help, we limit our potential and hold ourselves back. We are meant to be in community and partnership with other people. We’re meant to work together, help each other, and build together. We thrive when we cooperate. We flourish when we join forces. Our recovery is no different. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable opens us up to receive the help, support, inspiration and guidance of people who care about us. It lets us receive their encouragement and upliftment. It lets us benefit from the gifts of their understanding, compassion and empathy. We realize we’re not alone. We stop isolating so much. We stop thinking we have to be perfect, that we have to always hold it together and never show emotion. We stop seeing emotionality as signs of instability, weakness or inadequacy. We learn that there is nothing wrong with needing help. We all need help at one point or another.
Addiction is an overwhelming and debilitating illness. It wreaks havoc on our lives. We can only sustain so much pressure and withstand so much difficulty without receiving the support of other people. When we do allow ourselves to be supported, when we embrace our vulnerability, we help ourselves offset the many damaging mental and emotional effects that come with addiction and with isolating ourselves. We help ourselves navigate the depression, anxiety and other mental health issues that often accompany addiction. We form communities that allow us to feel supported, loved and cared for. We stop feeling as though we’re not good enough. We empower ourselves to heal. We make recovery possible for ourselves.
If you’re struggling with addiction, you’re not alone. Reach out for support. The community of Riverside Recovery has personal experience with addiction and recovery. We’re here to help you reclaim the life you love. Call (800) 871-5440 today.