As addicts, we’ve been using our addictive behaviors, substances and behaviors to self-medicate and numb ourselves from our deeply rooted pain. Our fear of confrontation is a major catalyst for these destructive cycles. We often haven’t developed the self-awareness, or the courage, to face our most difficult issues. We haven’t yet developed the inner strength or resilience to confront our fears and our wounds, knowing we will survive the emotional challenge of that confrontation. We learn over time that it can feel as though our pain is breaking us, but that we are in fact stronger than it. Our pain is a part of who we are. It doesn’t have to destroy us, unless we allow it to.
When we don’t confront things, we give them more power over us. We allow them to dominate and control us. When it comes to our addictions, the inner pain we’re refusing to confront starts to take over our lives and control our thinking, our emotions and our behaviors. We struggle to stay focused. We have a hard time accomplishing our goals. We let ourselves dwell on our pain, to the detriment of everything else in our lives. Our aversion to confrontation actually ends up making our problems worse, because our denial and avoidance, which are rooted in fear, are fueling and exacerbating them. In order to really heal ourselves, we have to learn how to face our fears, and the truth of who we are, head on.
Riverside Recovery is committed to helping you uncover the issues fueling your addictions. Our treatment programs include multiple forms of therapy, family workshops and mindfulness-based relapse prevention education. Call (800) 871-5440 for more information.