With Al-Anon, we benefit from being surrounded by people who are in very similar situations to ours. We can all relate to the incredible pressure and stress we’re under. We know from personal experience just how depressing and painful it can be to watch our loved ones suffer. Having other people who can truly understand us and our experiences can be profoundly comforting and reassuring. We feel less alone. We stop isolating ourselves, which is something we tend to do especially if the other people in our lives lack compassion and understanding for what we’re going through. In meetings, we receive guidance and wisdom. We’re inspired and encouraged by our peers. This support is invaluable to continuing onward on this very difficult journey.
One critically important lesson we learn from Al-Anon is that the responsibility for recovery belongs to the addicts in our lives and them alone. We can no longer blame ourselves or hold ourselves accountable. We each are responsible for figuring out how to live our lives in the healthiest way possible, no matter what cards we’ve been dealt in life. Addicts have a particularly challenging set of cards to play they’ve been dealt, but we can’t do the work for them. We can’t take on their recovery for them. While this is a very tough realization to come to, Al-Anon helps us to come to terms with this truth, so that we can free ourselves from the clutches of self-blame and the patterns of enabling we’ve fallen into. The relief and reassurance we feel from coming to this new understanding can be life-changing and can allow us to focus on our own healing, something we often neglect when trying to support our loved ones.
If you or your loved one is struggling with addiction, you are not alone. Reach out for support. The community of Riverside Recovery has personal experience with addiction and recovery, and we’re here to help you reclaim the life you love. Call (800) 871-5440 today.